We have all seen those seventies movies where the date returns to the guys apartment and Mr. Suave pops in the eight track tape and starts to get his groove on. That may have been hot and cool in the seventies, but in today’s world that is nothing short of grounds for abandonment. Girls are smart creatures and they know when they are being led down a road of persuasion. If they are on board, it doesn’t really matter what music you play. If they are on the fence, your music selection can make the difference between a quick kiss that night, or one as she is leaving your bed in the morning. The music you choose can either convince her that she must have sex with you, or that she must get away from you.
 

 

Music to avoid

Although cool, when you invite the guys over to play video games, angry rap artists who defile women and talk about their “whores” are not what a girl wants to hear when she comes over to hookup. She doesn’t want to hear 8 mile, or any of “gangsta” rap that you listen to. That just says, “I am an angry guy who won’t respect you now, or in the morning”. Refrain from the music that is the angst of your generation. That stuff is great for working out, or when you want to get it out. It isn’t great to get it off, or get it on.

Barry Manilow wasn’t cool in the eighties, guess what, still not cool today. If you want to have sex in an elevator with a hot girl, refrain from playing elevator music. If it is being played on the “lite” channel, it isn’t going to make her hot, or make her want to have sex with you. It is only going to remind her of her grandmother. Grandmother leads to guilt, and soon she is out the door. Save the Air Supply for after she’s gone.

Oldies but goodies aren’t any good either. The girls from the oldies era didn’t put out for a good reason. They couldn’t feel sexy with all that nonsense going on. If you think that it is cute to play a return to the old day, it isn’t. That goes for classic rock as well. No girl is going to be in the mood by listening to Van Halen or Boston. Save the deep tracks if you want to get deep with her. It doesn’t say “tough guy” it says “tool”.

Music to listen to

You want to find music that will make her feel good. Not the kind that is playing in some sappy movie, or chick flick, but the kind that is just a little sensual. If you are asking “what is sensual?”, it is a rhythm that gets her in the mood. Sensual music makes her want to dance a little out her pants. Not the kind that is pumping or techno hip hopping, it is the kind that makes her feel like moving slow and rhythmic. That is what she is looking for. There is a whole section of music and artists that know how to make a woman want to groove and gyrate.

A woman likes the predictability of the things that she knows with a little bit of those things she is unfamiliar with but would like to hear more. Artists that know how to tone it down a bit, but put beat into it are the ones to stick to. Asher Roth, Macklemore, or The Neighbourhood have the right tone that you want. Playing it softly in the background won’t be overpowering, or in your face screaming, it just sets the mood and the tone for what is about to happen.

Some middle of the road favs that will get her ready are Ray LaMontagne, or the Fray. Their kind of simplicity of sound is the thing you are looking for. You want her to be able to focus on the task at hand and if she gets too into the lyrics of the music you are playing, or becomes too distracted by what is going on, she can’t perform. Yes, women have to “perform” too. If her brain isn’t into it, she can’t be into it either. When all else fails it is always okay to ask her if she has any preferences. Women like to be asked about themselves, and providing her with what she wants instead of guessing, is always a good idea. If you give her what she wants, she will give you what you want.