Most guys have experienced early ejaculation at least once in their lives and for some it happens with frequency. If you have a genuine problem with premature ejaculation you should seek medical help. If you pop off early every once in a while because you’re overly excited or you just had some bad luck you should deal with it in a mature way so as not to ruin the hook up or forbid future sex dating with the girl. Here’s how you deal with it and what to avoid at all costs.

What to Do: Compliment Her

This is the best route if you can maintain your composure. Tell her that she’s so hot and you were so turned on that you just couldn’t contain yourself. Most women will be flattered and most of the time it will be a genuine explanation. Even if she’s disappointed that you came before her she will forgive you because the glow of being hot enough to make a guy orgasm before he wanted to and normally does is powerful. Something like this works well: Wow, that rarely happens to me. You’re so hot and I was so turned on that I just couldn’t stop it from happening. In that moment it’s important to show that you weren’t only concerned with your own orgasm, which is a major faux pas in the casual dating and hookup world. That’s why you should show concern for her pleasure. Offer to go down on her and get her off with your tongue (hopefully you used a condom and your semen isn’t inside her) or engage in more hot and heavy foreplay until you’re ready to go again, which shouldn’t be long since she’s so hot and sexy. If the sex is good there’s no reason she wouldn’t be interested in going again.

What Not to Do: Feel Shame

The very natural and understandable first reaction after early ejaculation is a rush of shame or embarrassment. Guys tend to view this as a sexual failure, particularly if the girl was nearing her orgasm or expecting to orgasm and now she must go without (at least for a little while). That rush of shame will happen for most guys and that’s fine but you need to control it and push it away immediately or it can all go very badly. Here’s how it gets bad: ìI’m so sorry. I swear that never happens to me. I’m so embarrassed. I swear that hasn’t happened since I was a teenager. My god!î That’s usually followed by running off to the bathroom to dispose of the condom and cower for a few minutes. Your reaction to this situation will largely determine the reaction of your female hook up, so keep it under control. If you let her see your shame and embarrassment and you get lost in it then you’ll lose her. You should see it as a chance to have sex with her again, which means two orgasms in one night.

The truth is that there’s no reason to be embarrassed if have an instance of early ejaculation. It’s not a failing on your part. It’s a physiological occurrence that happens to everyone. It can and should be dealt with in a mature way, even if you’re having a one time hook up with a girl. It doesn’t have to end after your orgasm. Most guys can get ready to go again in 5-30 minutes and if it’s with a new girl you’ll likely be on the shorter end of that scale. So buck up and assure her that the fun doesn’t have to end just because you had an orgasm.