Anal sex is alluring for so many reasons. It’s naughty, it’s a tighter entrance, doggy style looks amazing when you’re in the bottom, etc. Whatever the reason is, if you want to have anal sex with your lady you need to ensure she has a pleasurable experience. Here are tips to help you have the anal sex you want when you hookup.

Penetration isn’t entirely necessary

That seems crazy since the point of anal sex is to penetrate, but if you really want anal sex you need to think a little longer term than that very night. If she seems scared then tell her there’s no need to penetrate her anus. Instead, you need to associate playing with the backdoor with pleasure, which means stimulating the area without inserting anything. You can rub your fingers or the tip of your penis around the anus or you can use your tongue to give her a rimjob. Make sure she’s nice and clean if you’re going to do that. The point is to stimulate the nerves in the area to make it feel great.

When you penetrate make sure it feels good

If you’re hook up does any research on anal sex she’ll likely read that it’s going to hurt the first time or even the first few times. If she really likes you (this is not likely if you’re just doing sex dating or looking to get laid) she will withstand that pain to get to the point where it feels good. That’s not necessary though and if you want to get laid with anal sexthe first time out you need to do it right. That means keeping her relaxed and aroused, using lots of lubrication, and taking it really slow. If she feels even a little pain you need to stop your penetration and let her relax.

Patience is key

The outer sphincter can be controlled by your girl. The inner sphincter, which is about an inch inside, largely cannot. That’s more reflexive and if you’re invading her rectum it might very well close up tight. She can’t control it so no matter how relaxed she says she is it might just lock up. Show patience and you’ll get inside.

Anally tease her during other play

To encourage her to have anal sex you should try teasing the area while you go down on her or penetrate her vagina. Imagine her on top and riding you. While she’s in the throes of ecstasy just run your finger over her anus. Rub it, use a vibrator on it. If she likes the stimulation then slowly slip something lubed and slender inside. You can do the same while you’re going down on her. Associate the area with pleasure and anal sex is likely in your future.

Diet makes a difference

Anal sex will go a lot better if the rectum is clear and clean. Lots of fiber and vegetables will ensure regular, cleansing bowel movements and make sure there isn’t anything leftover inside. That makes it more comfortable to have an invasive body in the rectum and thereby makes anal more pleasurable for her.

Never travel the fecal vaginal route
There’s a strong chance of infection if you track any trace amounts of fecal matter from her anus to her vagina and if you’re having anal sex then there’s going to be fecal matter involved (you’ll need to get comfortable with that). If you slip a finger in her anus then clean it before you go anywhere near her vagina. If you have anal sex you’ll need to change condoms before you penetrate her vagina.