Your hookup is hot, and you believe that the sex is hot. You certainly feel it, and there is no hiding whether or not you have had an orgasm. There is visible evidence. With women it can be trickier to decipher whether you’ve really satisfied their desire or if they’ve given you a five star act that is worthy of an Oscar. Sure, you want to believe that you have mad skills, what guy doesn’t, but do you really want to believe it if it’s not true? It can be difficult to improve your game if you don’t know where it’s lacking.
 
 
 

Why Your Hookup Fakes Orgasms

You may be thinking to yourself that this doesn’t happen very frequently, but you’re wrong. A recent National Survey of Sexual Health and Behavior, a whole lot of women are leading the guys they’re having sex with to believe that they’ve climaxed when they haven’t. The ladies reported that around 64% of them had an orgasm the last time they had sex. The dudes? 85% thought that their partner came during their last sexual encounter. That’s a whole lot of fake orgasms! If you can’t imagine why your hook up, would want you to think she’s had an orgasm when she hasn’t, there are three main reasons. The first reason a woman would fake it is because she doesn’t want to hurt your feelings. She doesn’t want you to think there’s something wrong with you; that you aren’t good at pleasing her or that you aren’t attractive to her. The second reason most common reason is that she’s worried that you’ll think there is something wrong with her. No woman wants her hookup to think that she’s defective. Even though it is an archaic line of thinking, the old stereotype about frigid women continues to do quite a number on the self-esteem of many ladies when it comes to sex. The third reason is that she isn’t enjoying the experience and doesn’t want to draw it out any longer. It’s a rare woman who will interrupt sex to tell you that it just isn’t doing it for her and she’s ready to wrap it up and leave.

What To Look For

So what’s a guy to do? Assuming that you truly care whether or not your hookup gets off (and you should), the signs of a real orgasm are pretty hard to fake. First of all, you should know what it isn’t. It isn’t all screaming and moaning, with fingernails digging into your back. Some women truly are incredibly vocal when they orgasm, but that alone isn’t a reason to think you’ve gotten her off. Any woman who has ever watched a porno or even seen steamy sex scenes in an R-rated movie can do this convincingly. The real and undeniable signs are that her body will become hot to the touch when she’s getting aroused. Her face will probably flush. The tell-tale rosy cheeks and glistening skin that are characteristic of good sex led to the term ‘afterglow’ for a reason. Her heart rate will increase and her breathing will get faster, too. Her muscles will become taught. You can feel this tension throughout her entire body. You will be able to feel her vagina tighten like a vice grip as she approaches orgasm, and during the grand finale it will begin to contract and release in a series of rapid-fire spasms; on average she will have about ten to fifteen of these spasms over the span of about twenty to thirty seconds. While this is happening, you will also notice the muscles in her face, neck, limbs and toes contracting. While it is possible to fake some of this, being able to coordinate the faking of that many signs at ones is a feat that not many would be able to pull off.

If you sense that your hookup has faked it, what do you do? Try some good old fashioned honest communication; just don’t make it sound like an accusation. Tell her you get the feeling that maybe you didn’t quite do it for you and that you’d love to know how to help satisfy her. Many women will appreciate this and will open up and tell you what works for them. While it can be embarrassing to ask, if you can make yourself do it you will both benefit. She’ll get to leave the experience with a real orgasm, and you’ll have more knowledge about women’s bodies for your next encounter.