Sex is always fun but the more stimulation you introduce the more fun you’ll have. The actual act of thrusting inside her can only be done in so many ways, but the build up to that can be filled with variety and if you’re doing it right then it should be. Every hook up is a chance to explore something new. Don’t waste the opportunity. Check out the foreplay tips:

Try a porn movie

Before you try this you should make sure your hookup is into it. A simple message before you meet will confirm that, particularly if you’re smart about it. Don’t ask if she wants to watch some nasty hardcore porn, but if she would be into a sexy movie as foreplay. Then pick something sexy. Wicked produces seriously erotic movies starring beautiful men and women, for instance. Every girl is different but for the most part they prefer sexy movies that are about desire, lust, and passion, not the act of thrusting into a vagina or the misogyny that dominates so many porn films.

Read an erotic story

The internet is full of erotic stories that can be accessed for free. The book store is now full of them too thanks to 50 Shades of Grey. Read her a naughty story but shy away from the really hard stuff until you know her a little better or you have clearance beforehand. The easiest way to scare her out of the bedroom is something super dirty that she has no interest in or that scares her a little. That’s sex dating gone wrong.

You can never go wrong with a massage

An erotic full body massage is guaranteed to make her wild with desire. The body is one big erogenous zone and if you touch it in the right way you’ll have her dripping wet with anticipation of penetration. For some women there’s great delight in desiring a man but being denied it, for a little while at least. Plus, touching builds an intimate bond and that’s always good to help you get laid in a satisfying way.

Erotic bondage can be sexy

The idea of being tied up and taken by a man lives in the psyche of most women. The key is bringing it out in a safe way. It’s hard when you’re sex dating because she needs to trust you. That means working to establish that trust via messages, phone calls, and in person on your hook up. That also means not being weird about tying her up. Don’t bring out rope and gloves and lots of tools. Try something simple like a scarf. It’s about adding a little kink to the fun, not making her your slave for the night.

Food can be fun

Never underestimate the erotic possibilities of feeding each other strawberries with whipped cream or licking sweet chocolate sauce off private parts (it’s wise to avoid food in her vagina since that can easily lead to an infection). Licking whipped cream and chocolate off her breasts will turn you both on in a big way and having her suck it off your member will drive you wild and make a blowjob more pleasurable for her.

Finally, any variety is good

Newness is arousing simply by being new. If you hook up and it’s the same as last time it lacks that sizzle. That’s one of the reasons people cheat. Having a new person every time is a big part of what makes sex dating so much fun, but even that can get boring if the sex is always the same. Try all of the above and more to spice things up and you’ll enjoy the sex a whole lot more.